Ideal way starting a relation (don't rush nor let rush)

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Whether you have had bad relationships in the past, not work out relationship with your girlfriends/boyfriends, it can be helpful to know ways to begin more successful/healthier relationships. Though it is possible that relationships that start out of a so to say ideal way could also sometime not working out, the likelihood of this happening is less than in relationships that begin in a rush/unhealthy ways.

Well, the first step may be talking to her! Talking a major conversation initially might not be the a wise start, simply a brief exchange of words will do. Flirting are the usually used first communication. But you should be very careful in your language. Hello, nice sweater, you are looking great, going home Christmas?.. that sorta thing will be enough for the beginning. Then, keep talking to her. "Are you going home for Christmas?" "Will your family be visiting?" "Where do they live?". The point is let her know someway that you are interest about her. But telling directly that you are interest about her/ care about her might freak her out. Again, innocuous exchanges that continue the conversation and elicit a certain amount of info. I mean, if she says "I'm going to my boyfriend's house for the holidays," it's a pretty good bet she's taken.

Do you know anything about her? If so, that's a foundation. Does she stop for coffee on the way to work? A good place to meet up or even ask her if she'd like to go for coffee. That puts the ball in her court, of course, so you have to be prepared for rejection, so to speak, but it doesn't mean it's hopeless. She really might have a hair appointment.

Kansas State University recommends having realistic expectations when you begin a new relationship. This protects the health of your relationship because it prevents you from becoming disappointed if your significant other is not everything you had hoped he/she would be.

Communicate Well

Honest, loving communication is one of the cornerstones of a healthy relationship. You can communicate well with your partner by listening deeply to what she says without interrupting or providing judgment. It is also important to ask clarifying questions and to paraphrase what the other person has said to make sure you understand her properly. You should also share information about yourself at the beginning of a relationship. Kansas State University states that you should not, however, share too much information about yourself at the beginning of a relationship to avoid overwhelming the other person.

Isn't it amazing how awkward and tongue tied we can be simply because we are attracted to someone, someone we might sit down with and have a perfectly fine, easy conversation with otherwise. Therefore as far as possible try to omit stammering in-front of her because it is a sign of immature behaviors. Also try not to be funny if you are not, she could only thinks you a jerk.


Build Trust and Respect

The University of Texas at Austin Counseling and Mental Health Center recommends doing this by focusing on all the nice things your partner does and says. Taking the opportunity to thank your partner for the small things he does (rather than the mistakes he makes) at the beginning of the relationship can set a positive tone to it. Another good tip the University of Texas at Austin recommends is to establish a pattern of apologizing immediately when you do something wrong in a relationship.

Explore Common Interests

Find things you and your partner share, and do those things together to get to know each other better and enjoy the time you spend together more. Common interests are one of the best foundations of a healthy relationship, so it is also a good idea to make sure a person you are interested in has similar interests as you before you get into a relationship. It is also important to note that it is all right if you do have some dissimilar interests, as you can learn new things from each other as well, which helps make being part of a relationship more interesting.

Treat your new relationship as if it was your first. The old tricks you've used in your old relationships will eventually make you associate your mate with all the mistakes of the past. Keep an open heart, and an open mind.

Lastly but not the least, do not rush into a relationship neither let rush anyone into it, because it may be interesting for the time being, but it mostly don't work out in most of the cases. If you want him/her start it gentlty, slowly and carefully..